Footprints

We never truly know how what we do and how we behave affects others. I, for one, hope my actions and behavior have for the most part had a positive effect. I’m sure I am not alone in this but I also don’t think I’m in the majority.

For example, simple kindnesses. When you are on a plane and disembarking or embarking for that matter, do you let the people in front of you go ahead? Or do you push forward, every man for himself? This is such a small courtesy, yet it’s a bit like a small war. Who’s On First! Is your seat going anywhere? Who’s Off First! I know we all have connections, but really? Is it a competition?

Another simple kindness, letting someone in the grocery line with two items go ahead of you if you have a full cart. Stopping to admire (and pat, if you are very lucky) a stranger’s dog. Thanking a representative for handling an inquiry on the phone. Not yelling or being sh**ty because your bill was wrong, or the service technician was not on time. As if it’s their fault.

We are bombarded by details; we have to handle so many as we navigate an increasingly fast-paced world. Let’s face it, it’s stressful. It may be why so many of us bury our faces in our phones, or in computer games or TV. (Game of Thrones won’t solve any problems but it sure makes you forget yours for a while.)

Have you ever known someone who is always mad about something? I have a girlfriend who is always complaining. It wears me out. We are friends by six degrees. Long story. But I find myself avoiding her. Not very kind of me, actually. In my defense, she always seems annoyed at my good nature. As a compromise, I try to push love her way and move on. That’s a small kindness, too.

On the other hand, many years ago I met some wonderful women in Romania. I only spent a handful of days with them in person but they have remained, in spite of time and distance, heart friends.

We all leave footprints on one another, whether we mean to or not. So here’s my pitch. Be unfailingly kind. I promise, it doesn’t hurt. Watch where you step.