What
separates the men from the boys, so to speak? Women from girls? What
distinguishes cowardice from bravery? We
hear all the time that people who do heroic things think of themselves as
afraid. So what stands in their stead? Backbone? That’s what my mother called
it. And we all know people who don’t have it and those that do. It’s obvious. Desire
for it fuels the international obsession with heroes. We can’t get enough of heroic
stories of heroic deeds; legends; films of figures so adept and fearless that
we watch in awe and admiration.
So
how does one get it? This backbone thing. Is one born with it? Are we taught?
Do we model after watching others? Clearly we model everything else, from
copycat killing to fashion. If that were the case, wouldn’t we have a nation of
Jason Bournes? Tom Cruises? We don’t, do we.
How
does one keep on in the face of lethargy, fogginess, lack of motivation or just
plain fear? Sometimes I think backbone is simply perseverance; not giving up. It’s
the thing that keeps us striving. Georgia O’Keeffe said that she was terrified
every single moment of her life but never let it keep her from doing a single
thing she wanted to do. So very hard to persevere. So necessary.